Today I sit down with Claire Lerner to discuss practical approaches for parents managing highly sensitive, highly reactive, or 'orchid' children. We address common struggles parents face, such as interpreting sensitive caregiving, setting boundaries, and dealing with tantrums. Using real-life case studies, the importance of creating 'positive discomfort' for growth is emphasized. Tips include setting firm limits, using 'mommy/daddy moments' for decision-making, and the concept of sensitive caregiving that balances meeting children's needs with family dynamics.

Mt. Sinai Parenting Center: Webinar on Big Reactors

Drawing from cases from my 3 decades of working in the trenches with families, this presentation focuses on key traits of highly sensitive children that translate into big reactions and challenging behaviors. It provides key insights as to the root cause of these behaviors and practical strategies that work in real life, not just in theory.

Securely Attached Podcast with Dr. Sarah Bren

Claire Lerner joins me to talk about how we can best support “big reactors” — highly sensitive children who experience the world with heightened intensity, passion, and emotion.

Together we explore:

Why trying to “change” a child often backfires — and why shifting our own approach can spark real change.
How to recognize when your child’s explosive behavior is driven by overwhelm, rigidity, or a need for control.
The difference between masking and thriving, and why kids may act very differently at home than at school.
What it means to be your child’s “rock” during meltdowns and how to hold limits without fueling the fire,
How to create structure and predictability that helps sensitive kids feel safe and more flexible.
Why consistency matters more than quick results — and what to expect before things get better.
Practical, real-life strategies for navigating transitions, setting boundaries, and reducing daily battles.

Whether you’re parenting a highly sensitive child or you just want to strengthen your connection and reduce the chaos at home, this conversation will give you validation, hope, and tangible tools to help your child — and your whole family — thrive.